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At some point in our lives, we have all been in situations where we needed to do something but were unsure of how to go about it. This uncertainty is usually as a result of either inexperience or lack of confidence. So due to the uncertainty, we become indecisive about what to do and nothing destroys the aim of any action as indecisiveness.
In this article, I will be talking about boldness in your actions. Let me begin by saying this: Whenever you want to do something and for some reason, you’re unsure of yourself or your action; DO NOT DO IT. I repeat, if you’re unsure, abort! abort! abort! This is because your doubts and hesitations will infect and contaminate your execution thereby creating a total mess which will destroy the little confidence you had.
Timidity is your enemy when it comes to executing any plan of action. It’s better you do whatever you want to do with absolute boldness even if you don’t know what you’re doing; than to do it in a timid manner. This is primarily because errors made in boldness of execution are easily corrected with more boldness, while mistakes made through timidity leaves a sorry mess no one wants to come near.
No Gain In Timidity
Think about it for a seconds or two. Have you ever seen anyone who’s respected among friends, family or colleagues for being timid? The answer is no. Timidity has absolutely nothing good to offer you. It is this simple: There is no gain in being in timid. When you are timid in actions people will trust you less and disrespect you more. Your timidity is a glaring sign of weakness and we all know how society and people in general love to pick on the weak.
In every area of life, be it in education, business, courtship, friendship or even spirituality, timidity makes you hesitant to take action. The insidious thing is that your hesitation creates obstacles in your path. These obstacles which you have created by your timidity end-up making your life extremely difficult, which is not something you want.
Again, when you look at it rationally, you have absolutely nothing to gain from being timid and hesitant. It doesn’t matter what your excuse is. It doesn’t matter if you’ve never done the thing before in your life. It doesn’t matter if you don’t “look the part“. It doesn’t matter if people like you never do something like “this“. It just doesn’t matter. Your excuses ain’t good enough for you to be timid because when you do anything in a timid manner, you’re doom.
Get timidity out of your mind. It’s your number one enemy in terms of attaining success in anything. Instead, cultivate the habit of boldness in all things because boldness leads to success.
Boldness Leads To Success
I will start by saying, if you must do something, you must do it boldly. Put it another way or as a quote “If it must be done, it must be done boldly“. Write this down somewhere you can see it daily. When you brush your teeth in the morning, do you do it in a timid manner? No. When you eat your breakfast, lunch or dinner, do you eat them in a timid manner? The answer is also no. Why is that? This is simply because both your conscious mind and subconscious mind have both agreed that the actions of brushing one’s teeth every morning or eating or taking a shower are things that must be done and as such, they must be done in the right way, which is boldly. And because of the unconscious boldness applied to these actions, you’ve attained success in them without even realizing that the same principle is applicable to most things in life.
In the earlier section (No Gain in Timidity), I pointed to the fact that timidity creates obstacles in your path to success in life but do you also know that the opposite which is boldness get rid of obstacles? Boldness eliminates obstacles.
Everyone admires a bold man or woman because it shows the strength of the mind and belief in oneself. It is a display of power and people love a person of power. People want to be associated with a person of power, not a timid and weak individual.
So, be bold in approaches. It doesn’t matter what you’re approaching. I say, approach with boldness. If you see a woman whom you like and would like to court, approach her with boldness. If you are going for a job interview, approach it with boldness. If you see a new adventure opportunity which you will like to experience, approach it with boldness.
From today onward, no matter what it is you want to do, do it with boldness. Boldness has the extraordinary ability to hide our deficiencies. I remember when I started to learn salsa dance, I didn’t know the majority of the moves but whichever salsa move I was executing I executed it with boldness and because I did it with such boldness, my dancing partners didn’t even notice that I did the moves wrong and even if they did, they must have thought it was just a small mistake on my path – everyone makes a mistake during a dance after all. With my boldness, I didn’t have to suffer what most salsa dancing beginners suffered, which is usually being corrected after every 2 moves. I made my mistakes and corrected them without the constant lecturing from my female dancing partners.
Boldness leads to success because it shows confidence, belief in one’s ability and it’s a demonstration of power. If you are an employer and for some reason, the only way you decide who to employ is by shaking the prospective employee hands, who will you employ; the job seeker who’s handshake was weak and timid or the one who gave you a firm handshake with bold body language to match? Of course, you will employ the prospect who displayed strength and boldness at the earliest opportunity.
In whatever you want to do, be swift and bold with your execution. Any hesitation on your part creates gaps and doubt. The gaps will be filled with obstacles and the doubt will create an imaginary monster of gigantic size.
Let me repeat this again: “If it must be done, it must be done boldly“. The success of your execution lies in your boldness. Your boldness will strike fear into the heart of your opponent and eliminate your obstacles. The mere fact that you’re displaying boldness makes you a lot more intimidating than you really are. You have nothing to lose from being bold.
As a teenager when I was in secondary school, whenever a group of boys tries to attack me, I always aim for the biggest and strongest person in that group. I.e. The group leader. My strategy was simple: If am fighting with the biggest and strongest guy in the group, the rest of the group will back off to find out who wins because they actually want to find out if their group leader was as strong as he claims. And secondly, even if I lose the fight, which I never did, the rest of the group will think twice before making a move on me. After all, I have just given their group leader one hell of a fight. My strategy was successful because I was bold in my execution. I wasn’t half-hearted or hesitant. I just went for it like a man with nothing to lose and I honestly had nothing to lose.
So, in everything you do, do them boldly. Believe in yourself and approach with the mindset that fortune favours the bold ― Virgil. Hesitation and timidity have nothing good to offer you, so why will you allow them to infect your plan of action? You shouldn’t. Believe in yourself and approach with boldness in the knowledge that you either succeed or learn.
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