When I was growing up in an ultra-conservative family, the Bible verse of 2 Corinthians 6:14 was used frequently to warn me about who I should and shouldn’t associate with. As I grew older and moved up from “Children’s Class” to “Youth Class” in the Church, this same scripture verse was repeated by almost every Church Leader/Elder that covered a sermon.
When I finally graduated from the “Youth Class” to the “Adult Class“, the same scripture was constantly repeated almost every week in one of the weekly church services.
When a Bible verse is repeated almost on a weekly basis in any Church, it’s quite clear that that specific scripture verse is the main doctrine of that particular church. We were encouraged to shun and avoid the company of unbelievers. Our contact with them should only be when we are evangelising, working and doing anything professional but never as close friends or worse, romantic partner.
In this article, I want to really talk about Apostle Paul’s advice in 2 Corinthians 6:14 and what it really means to you. And you will be surprised to learn that your Church Pastors and Ministers have been teaching it all wrong to you all these years.
Let’s start with the two vital phrases – “unequally yoked” and what they really mean to you in your day to day life.
What is a yoke? A yoke is a device for joining together a pair of draft animals, especially oxen, usually consisting of a crosspiece with two bow-shaped pieces, each enclosing the head of an animal.
A yoke is a noun but when it’s in “use or action”, it becomes a verb (yoked).
So what does it mean to be yoked? When a physical yoke is involved, the English dictionary defined the act of being yoked as to put a yoke on; join or couple by means of a yoke. That is, to join two or more animals or things by the means of a yoke.
In the letter of Apostle Paul to the Corinthians, he didn’t mean two or more people being physically yoked together. He meant metaphorically. And when being yoked is used metaphorically, the meaning changes slightly “to be or become joined, linked, or united”.
So in the letter of Apostle Paul to the Corinthians, he was warning them not to join up, linked together or be united with anyone who is an “unbeliever” in their life missions because such union will be unbalanced. It’s unequal on some many levels. This is what is meant by “unequally yoked”.
This brings us to the next phase of this article. Who is an unbeliever?
Who Is An Unbeliever?
I bet if you walk down to any Church close to your place and ask the Pastors, Ministers or even the church members; “who is an unbeliever?” their answers will most likely be one of the following: (1) Anyone who doesn’t believe in God. (2) A sinner. (3) An unrighteous person.
None of these people is “an unbeliever” in the context of 2 Corinthians 6:14. So if the atheist, sinner and unrighteous person isn’t an unbeliever, who then is an unbeliever?
An unbeliever in the context of Apostle Paul’s advice in 2 Corinthians 6:14 is anyone who doesn’t believe in you, your goals and life philosophy. This person is the unbeliever you MUST not be unequally yoked together with; be it in marriage, business, friendship or in any other thing.
It doesn’t matter if this person has known you all your life. It doesn’t matter if this person is your childhood sweetheart. It doesn’t matter if this person is your Mum, Dad, Brother, Sister, Aunty, Uncle, Best Friend Forever, Pastor or Mentor. As far as this person does not believe in you, your ambitions, your goals and your life principles, this person is an unbeliever whom you MUST not be yoked or associated with.
Be Not Unequally Yoked With An Unbeliever
In life one thing is clear; your results are a reflection of your decisions and actions. It is that simple. Knowing this, it falls on you to fully understand who you are associating yourself with because whoever you’re associating with on a regular basis have a huge influence on your decisions and actions.
Firstly you must decide who you are as a person. You can only do this by knowing internally what your “Life Philosophy” is.
Ask yourself these questions: What is my life philosophy? Am I a man or woman of integrity? Am I always genuine even when no one will ever know if am lying or stealing? How do I see people, my physical environment and personal relationships? How do I behave in a romantic relationship?
These are some of the questions that you must answer yourself. Your answers to these questions will help you develop your life philosophy.
You must develop a life philosophy and abide by it but bear in mind that your life philosophy will guide all your actions and ultimately decide the results you will be getting in life. So form a life philosophy that gets you the result you want in life.
If you don’t know how to do this, get in touch with us. We can help you develop a life philosophy that gets you the results you truly want.
After you have developed your life philosophy, take a critical and analytical look at your close friends and ask yourself this question: Are my close friends in unity or in agreement with my life philosophy? If the answer to this simple question is “No”, then you need to ditch your current friends and find those people whom your life philosophy and theirs are in agreement and unity.
Being unequally yoked with unbelievers causes stagnation and death of the person spiritually and eventually physically. I have seen people who were flourishing but immediately they got married to someone who’s character, beliefs and life principles are not in agreement with theirs, then suddenly they start having “bad luck” upon “bad lucks” until they develop a critical illness which eventually kills them.
Life is about self-expression. That’s the primary purpose why we are all here. Since the primary purpose of life is self-expression, it falls on you to ensure you do it right and you can only express yourself to the optimum max by associating with people whose life philosophies are in line with yours.
It’s dangerous to you both spiritually and physically to be in any kind of union with someone who doesn’t believe in you, your ambitions and life philosophy.
Be not unequally yoked with an unbeliever because an unbeliever simply doesn’t believe in you, your goals or your life philosophy. Disobeying this vital law will lead to your stagnation and ultimately your demise. Let him or her that has an ear hear what the spirit says. – Revelation 2:29
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