Am sure you are one of those people who at the beginning of each year set one, two, three or even four resolutions for that year. The problem with setting New Year’s resolutions is that most of the time they are not really addressing the underlying issue.
New Year’s resolutions don’t usually tackle the reason why it was necessary for the resolution to be made in the first place. Setting a New Year’s resolution without finding out why it was necessary in the first place is like adding more structure upon a bad foundation.
So, my advice to you this year is this, do not set any New Year’s resolution, instead, make a commitment to know yourself and your issues.
In the world we live in now, the common trend is a habit I like to call, follow the follower or simply put; conformity. Most people set goals and make New Year’s resolutions because everyone else is doing it. It then becomes a case of mass motivation.
Whenever you’re doing anything and your source of motivation is the masses, you should stop immediately because whenever the masses are your source of motivation in anything, it is certain that that thing is very unlikely to be of any benefit to you.
You are a unique human being. There is simply no one out there like you. You are one in more than seven billion. That’s how unique you really are. If you fully understand the uniqueness of who you are, then you will understand that you not knowing who you really are in terms of your physical desires, style, taste, inclinations, beliefs and spiritual self, is the biggest crime you can commit against yourself.
Ask yourself this vital question: Who am I? Ask this question with the understanding that the person you see when you look into the mirror is not the real you.
The person you see each time you look into the mirror is the garment the real you is wearing to experience this reality. This is why whenever someone dies, his or her death is usually announced as “the remains of Mr/Mrs”. We call it “the remains” because deep down we all know that the real person is gone. What is left behind is the garment of the real person and we call this garment, the body.
After you find out who you really are, then it will become clear to you why you have the problems you currently have and since you now know the real cause of your problems, you can now work on them.
Work On Your Problems
Once a problem is known, then fixing it becomes easy. A problem known is a problem half solved. The fact that you know who you really are will definitely help you identify and understand all your problems.
What you must bear in mind is that whenever you identify a problem, it will initially seem like it is bigger than it really is. You will see it in everything you do but the problem isn’t getting bigger, it is getting smaller because now you know what it is and you can identify it easily at any given moment.
If for instance, you identify that the fear of failure is why you usually procrastinate, you would initially notice that this fear of failure manifest itself in most things you do on a regular basis but now that you have identified it, it would seem larger than it really is. Don’t be alarmed when this happens, it’s the natural state of things once a personal issue is identified.
What you must understand is that every problem you identify will appear larger than they really are, ignore this and proceed to find the solution to each of the problems.
Make A Firm Decision Never To Backslide
What is backsliding? Backsliding is going back to old habits which we have sworn never to have anything to do with again. When you identify your issues and fix them, you must fight the temptation to indulge old thoughts and habits which created and foster such old problems.
The fact is that old habit die hard. If you have always been a pessimistic person and now you’ve changed and become a positive optimistic person, you should always be on your guard against pessimism in everything you do because that old pessimistic mindset will never stop trying to get back in and take charge again.
So, you must make a firm decision that all old habits which don’t serve you must never be allowed back into your life. If you ever let the old you back in and he/she takes charge, things will be worse than they were before you began your personal transformation process.
All your adult life you have been making New Year’s resolutions; ask yourself this question, “how many of my New Year’s resolutions have ever become permanent progress?” The answer is likely to be none. This is because the thing you are trying to fix with your New Year’s resolution is the symptom. You need to identify the disease which is responsible for that symptom and destroy it.
It is only when you have destroyed the disease responsible for your symptoms, will you truly make progress. New Year’s resolutions will not solve anything if the underlying issue which made the New Year’s resolutions necessary remain unresolved.
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