Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.
The wonderful thing about fear is that it works exactly like faith. The same way your faith in something brings about it manifestation, the same way fear of anything will bring about its manifestation.
Fear is so potent and destructive that the phrases “fear not” was mentioned in the bible 365 times. I personally know from experience that asking people to have faith in anything requires encouragement. In fact, you might be the most reliable person to a friend of yours but immediately he or she is not getting the results expected from you for whatever reason, they have already started losing faith in you.
But when it comes to fear people don’t need encouragement. They are just genuinely afraid of whatever they happen to be afraid of. The object of their fear could be spiders, snake, rejection, not finding love or happiness, being childless or anything.
What you must know is that you were born with two fears. Fear of height and fear of loud noises. All other fears you have now, you learned from the people around you and your environment. They are not instinctive.
Fear is a thief. It steals your peace, happiness, joy, dreams and much more. The reason why time and time again the phrases “fear not” keeps popping up in the bible is because what you fear, persist and will eventually manifest.
In my personal experience, I have been in some dire situations, instead of fearing the worse; I acknowledge the possibility of the worse case scenario and how I will deal with that. After this, I just move on. What I have noticed is that the worse case scenario never quite materialise. In fact, the situations seem to work themselves out to the best possible outcomes with all things considered of course. This is so because I simply didn’t invest any energy in fearing the worse outcome, thereby denying fear the energy it requires to bring my worse fear into manifestation.
In some of the dire situations I have found myself in the past, I haven’t always been alone. There are usually people who are in the same situation just like me at the time but these people are usually petrified about the worse outcome. Some were so scared that when their phone rings, they start sweating and breathing heavy. What I observed was that all of them that were afraid of the worse possible outcome, always experience the worse possible outcome.
Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.
Fear has nothing to offer you other than to steal your happiness, peace and joy. Its only job is to bring the very thing or situation which you fear into reality.
Logically you have no reason to fear any situations no matter how troubling and unpredictable they might be. Like Marie Curie said in the quote above, “Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood”. Understand your situation, acknowledge its problems and challenges, think what you might do in the worse scenario and move on. I mean really move on. Don’t become a worrier. A worrier considers all the variables that are beyond his or her control. The one thing you have to focus on is how you will respond and move on with your life. Don’t waste a moment fearing the worse. Live in the present.
How to tackle your fear
1) Acknowledge the thing or situation that is the subject of your fear
2) Ask yourself “what is the worse that can possibly happen?”
3) Prepare a well thought out response to the question you asked yourself in number 2
4) Practice “shadow application” of your prepared response. Just like they do in office fire drills. They don’t wait until there is an actual fire before they respond. They have all been drilled on what to do in case there is a fire.
5) Live in the moment. Jesus said, “How can the guests of the bridegroom mourn while he is with them? The time will come when the bridegroom will be taken from them; then they will fast. Matthew 9:15
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Have a wonderful day.
Mr. Ben.
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