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When I was a kid, I was a hyper kid. Jumping from one place to another. Running into things and damaging some of them in the process. I can’t remember being afraid of anything, but as I grew older, I was programmed by those around me to be calm, quiet, afraid and obedient. Although my parents were not purposefully training me to be afraid. But in their attempt to bring me “under control“, they injected the spirit of fear into me without knowing it. I believe the same is for many kids right now.
People are born with two fears. Fear of height and loud noises. All other fears are injected into our minds by the people around us and our environment.
Presence of fear always result in the absence of courage. Fear has nothing positive to offer anyone but courage is needed in order to achieve success in life. Currently, the masses are being programmed subconsciously to be fearful of everything but the same system and environment that is busy programming people to be fearful are the same ones complaining about the shortage of courageous and brave individuals in our society.
What is Courage?
Courage and presence of mind mean the same thing. To put it more plainly, courage is the presence of mind that enables an individual to face difficulty or danger without fear.
Cowardice and lack of mental control are both the same thing. Cowardice is the absence of courage. It is rooted in hurry. A person habitually hurried will always become a coward.
There is a reason I always say never hurry in my articles. In the article – Working in an efficient manner, I made the effort to repeatedly warn the reader not to hurry because a hurried job will be lacking power.
A person who is hurried or always in a hurry will be lacking repose. When there is no repose, – deliberation, calmness, power, concentration, focus and coolness will also be lacking. With the absence of these qualities, the mind of the person will be filled with fear, cowardice and timidity.
The good and bad news is that both courage and cowardice can both be cultivated no matter how far you have gone in the direction of the other. Since you are reading this, am right to presume that you are only interested in finding out how to cultivate courage and not its opposite.
Courage can be cultivated through your everyday activities. You can do this by adding deliberation to everything you do. The lack of courage stems from the lack of deliberation and repose in the doing of the little things. For if you cannot do the little things with deliberation and repose, how can you do the big things with such qualities?
A quality that is absent in the doing of everyday little things will certainly be absent in the doing of so-called big things.
The Real Cause of Cowardice
As already stated in the paragraphs above, cowardice is the absence of courage. The lack of courage has been responsible for most of the failures mankind has witnessed. If you take a careful look around, you will notice that courage is in short supply.
Our current lifestyle has reduced us to people who are exposed to fear more than any other people who have existed in our reality. We are constantly exposed to fear. Fear? Yes, fear.
Look around you, people are always in a hurry to do whatever they want to do. Being hurried or in a hurried frame of mind is you being fearful of a loss. A loss of an experience or pleasure.
So the fear of a loss of an experience is the real reason for the hurried mindset everyone is displaying. And in that hurried mind frame dwells cowardice or lack of courage.
When a person is in a hurried frame of mind, there is always a distance between the mind and body. The space created by the distance of mind and body is occupied or penetrated by the current of fear. And where this is fear, there also is cowardice.
You could say am not really a fearful person, just on the odd occasion. Let me tell you this and you should note it down someone you can see it regularly: Fear in one thing will manifest fear in other things.
You being fearful of one thing does not limit the current of fear to stay on that particular thing only. Once you allow fear in your mind on one particular issue, sooner rather than later, it will start manifesting in others things before you are even aware of it.
This is the real reason you will see a man or woman who you know to be confident, but to yours and their surprise they displayed fear when they weren’t expecting it. They could display it while talking to someone they find attractive or while talking to someone of higher status. But the fact is that the manifestation of that fear caught them unaware.
Fear gives you the impression and possibility of a loss when there is none. A man wants to talk to a woman whom he finds attractive but because of fear, he is thinking “what if she doesn’t like me?” “What if I didn’t express myself well or communicate properly?” There again you see the distance the man has created between his mind and body. Because this man has not even approached the lady, yet he has envisioned the various possible outcomes.
With his active pessimistic imagination, he has created a distance between his mind and body, and this space will be occupied by the current of fear which will make him fearful of a loss. Loss of an expected outcome when there is none to be sustained.
Fear affects how you do a lot of things whether you are aware of it or not. It affects the way you talk, walk, eat, look at people and e.t.c. Luckily there is a cure. The cure is so simple that most will dismiss it without even trying it. So let’s look at the cure for fear and cowardice in the next heading.
Deliberation and Repose
The cure for lack of courage or cowardice is deliberation and repose in all things. Being deliberate in all things can come across as being slow to some but deliberation can be as quick as thought.
Being deliberate means applying a step at a time to whatever you are doing. Timidity is the result of looking at too many difficulties or pains at once.
Deliberation in all things means focusing your attention on the job at hand until its completion. Let’s say you are to attend a very difficult meeting with some unpleasant people. So naturally, you are thinking about this meeting. You are thinking about it while in the shower. You are thinking about it while getting dressed. You are thinking about it while eating breakfast. You are still thinking about while driving to the meeting.
Do you know that everything you did before you get to that meeting was done without much deliberation? This is because the time for showering should only be for taking a shower. Your mind and body should be present in that shower and not at a meeting miles away from your shower. The same should be for when you are getting dressed, eating breakfast and driving. Your body and mind must be present and completely concentrated on the job at hand. This is the only way you can develop deliberation of movement.
Deliberation of movement is movement so focused that you have the time to think before you act. It is you holding your thought on the action at hand.
To train for courage is to train for deliberate movement in all things. And by cultivating deliberation, you will have the power to know and do the things to be done in an instant.
In other to emphasise this point clearly, let me repeat it again; in order to train your mind for courage or to cultivate courage, you MUST train your mind for deliberate movement in all things.
A coward not only sees the current danger but also the possibility of future pains and discomfort. I will rather not use the phrase coward but I can’t find another phrase to communicate the point well enough.
A coward meets a woman he likes, he is instantly thinking ahead. He is imaging if the woman will be a good mother. He is thinking about how his parents and siblings will receive her. Majority of the time, they have only been on 2 or 3 dates. But being a coward, he has already travelled far ahead in time to imagine negative outcomes and how to deal with them. What usually happens is that the whole thing fizzles out after a month or two. He might blame the girl all he likes but the fact is that because he was never really present to give the dates his real personality, the dates were lacking power and excitement.
The girl will usually end it not really knowing why she did, but what she didn’t know is that, there is something invisible embedded inside her that detects cowardice and when this cowardice is detected in a potential mate, the mate or potential mate will surely be discarded.
So it is of vital importance for you to cultivate courage. To possess the control of mind over body. To be present in the moment instead of going ahead of yourself. In simple terms, become deliberate in your actions.
At first, being deliberate in all things might make you look slow but this is normal. It is like learning to drive for the first time. No one jumps into a car for the first time and became a competent driver instantly. This is the same way it will be when you are cultivating deliberation. At first, you will do things a little bit slower but effectively, but as time goes on you will do the same things fast and in an effective manner.
Courage is a vital quality for everyone. It gives you the mindset of seeing possibilities and focusing on one task at a time. Being focus on the task at hand gives you power. It gives your mind control over your body. Having this control of mind over body is what is called deliberate movement. You think before you act.
Anyone who is short of courage is usually occupied with several things at any given time. There is usually a distance between their body and mind. This is usually masked as being a daydreamer.
If you have always been in the habit of doing one thing while your mind is on something else, you will naturally find it harder to bring your mind back and focus it on the task at hand. Even when you are successful in doing this, your mind wonders off again in less than 10 seconds.
So to cultivate deliberate movement, you have to start with the baby steps. Can you take a shower without letting your mind wander off to distant land? Can you tie your shoelaces and be completely focused on the tying of the shoelaces while you are performing the act? These are some of the little everyday things you must start with. For if you cannot apply deliberate movement to the little things, you cannot apply it to the big things. And without cultivating deliberation in the doing of the little things, you cannot cultivate courage.
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