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Do you walk around feeling you have no power, no respect? Does it seem to you that at social gatherings, most people give you less respect than other people of the same social status as you? If you answer yes to any of these questions, the answer is that you have no power. No power means no respect.
You see when we are growing up as kids and teenagers, we were taught to smile, make people laugh, be friendly, be social and e.t.c. With this type of training, the majority of people grow up acting too nice, too friendly, too social and too approachable. This is how you started to lose your power.
Humans are the most complicated living thing on this planet. They claim to want one thing, but immediately they have that thing which they claim to want, they either use it against the person who gave it to them or they don’t want it anymore. The same goes for all the qualities they claim to desire from an individual. They will claim that they want a friendly and approachable person but it is that same friendly and approachable person whom they disrespect the most.
So, you are a lovely person but you are also aware that your friends treat you with disrespect. People can only disrespect you when you either intentional or unintentional invite them to do so. And secondly, the fact that your peers are disrespecting you is a clear indication that you lack power.
In this article, I will be discussing how you can regain some of the power you’ve freely given away unintentionally. The powers you’ve given away has resulted in making you a person of little or no power, which is where the lack of respect you are experiencing from your peers stems from. No one respects a person without power.
How do you then regain your lost power? Power is given away in the following ways:
(1) Being a talkative person.
(2) Being a predictable person.
(3) Being timid in most things.
(4) Declaring your support easily.
(5) Not having an opinion.
(6) Not having a firm belief in anything.
(7) Not having a personal life principle.
(8) Partaking in herd mentality.
(9) Being too nice or straightforward.
I could go and go on the many ways in which an individual can give away his or her power but I will leave it at the 9 ways listed above.
If you carefully consider the 9 ways listed above in which a person can give away his or her power, it becomes clear that I can easily write a book on the matter but the title of this article is “One Way To Regain Your Power“. So, I will stick to it. The number one way for any human being who is currently without much power to regain his or her power is to talk less. This is addressing the number one thing on the 9 ways for losing power listed above.
Do you remember the quote by N. Scott Momaday at the beginning of this article? In case you’ve forgotten it, I will repeat it here again: “A word has power in and of itself. It comes from nothing into sound and meaning; it gives origin to all things.“
Your words are one of your main power. The words which you speak carry more power than you can ever realise. It was Jesus Christ who said that “The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life.” – John 6:63 NKJV.
When you talk too much, you give away your power, the more you talk the less power you retain. Look around you, who do society fear the most? The talkative leader or the one that barely says anything? The answer is the leader that barely says anything.
Those who talk less inadvertently create a mystery around their persona. With this type of people, you really don’t know where you stand. You don’t know if they hate you or like you. In fact, when you are having a conversation with them, you end up talking more than you might initially want to because they are have developed the habit of letting the other person do most of the talking. The strangest thing is that, the more you let other people talk about themselves, the more they want to have a conversation with you. This is simply because humans like talking about themselves. It boosts their sense of importance. If people leave your presence feeling like they are very important, it doesn’t require smart thinking to predict that those people will appreciate you more which will position you as a person of power.
I can understand the inert human need to talk more especially if it is a topic which you’re passionate about. My advice to you today is simple; in order to regain the majority of the power you’ve lost in your social circle and workplace, talk less, listen more. Let others do the talking while you do the listening. And when you want to talk, speak less than necessary.
Jesus Christ said in the book of John 6:63 that “The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life.” Do you think a talkative person word can ever be that potent? The simple answer is no. For your words to carry any form of power, they must be scarce and few. Scarcity creates value and power.
An individual that is constantly yapping on about one thing or the other can never be a person of power. Power and mystery go hand in hand. And if you’re constantly talking or worse a talkative, you can’t attract power. In fact, people will avoid your company in social gatherings and settings.
Take it from me, I used to talk a lot but after I realised that people avoid my company during social gatherings, I cut down on my chats. In fact, since I reduced my statements to the bare minimum, the same people who used to avoid my company in social gatherings are the ones who can’t stay away from me. They are doing all the talking, while my responses are reduced to one phrase in most instances. Sometimes a person might spend 5 minutes talking and my response to that long talk will be a simple “really?”. With that simple “really?“, the person goes off on another round of 5 minutes talk.
So if you have lost most of your power to the point that people are now disrespecting you. Simply cut down your talks to the bare minimum. This will create a mystery around you and force the other people to do the talking, thereby giving you back all the power and respect you’ve lost to them. This is simple but it works.
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