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What is in a name? Everything. What you call something, that thing will become to you. Have you ever noticed how some pet act very different to their owners? If you have a dog and for some reason, you believe that the dog is “good for nothing” dog, that dog will likely live up to that “good for nothing” name you’ve given to it. This is the primary reason why most dog owners refer to their dogs as “good dog” or ask “who’s a good dog?“. This positive words directed towards the dog will only have positive effects on the character of the dog. There is power in a name and ignorance of this fact will be costly to you.
A name is a powerful thing. It looks simple but it’s actually everything. It’s hard to succeed in life with a “bad” name. There is an old adage that says “give a dog a bad name and you may as well hang him.’ But give him a good name and see what happens“. The link between a name and success is such a vital thing that a lot of actors in Hollywood changes their name before they became successful.
In life, we name everything and everything we name has some form of emotion attached to it. When something happens to you, no matter how it was at the time, you have the option of naming it whatever you like. You either name it something good or bad. When you come across someone and you have a brief conversation with them, instinctively you label this person as good, bad or neutral. Those neutral ones are usually classified into the good or bad category within 2 or 3 more encounters.
So, we are constantly naming and labelling things. We live in a world of names and labels. And the name will give the things, people and situations in our life have a big impact on our day to day experience. Because these things, people and situations have a reputation to live up to. A reputation we have given them.
Let’s look at ways we can use names or labelling to get the desired results from people and situations.
Give People A Name To Live Up To
Human beings are difficult to deal with. There is no other way around it. We are just complicated beings that don’t engage logic in most things we do. This is the reason some people we run from you when you are down but immediately you become a success, they can’t stay away from you. They somehow believe that you’ve forgotten how they simply abandoned you in your time of need. If they engage logic reasoning at any time during their thinking process, they would have come to the quick conclusion that if you abandoned someone at their hour of need, you should never go to them when they become successful. But most people are not like this. Their emotions run their actions. Immediately they see you’ve become successful, their emotion instructs them to run towards you because success is good for their wellbeing. The fact that they avoided you like poison during your hour of need will be of little importance to them.
So, yes, humans are very complicated, dealing with them to get your desired result requires a special set of skills.
In this section of this article, I am discussing using the power in a name to get anyone to act and perform in the way that suits your goal in all your dealings with them.
In order to avoid confusion, I will go straight to the point. Whenever you are dealing with someone and for some reason or reasons, they are not performing as you would like or they are not doing what you expect from them. Do the following:
(1) Make them aware of the things they are doing well.
(2) Tell them what you genuinely like about what they have done well some far.
(3) Give the person a name to live up to. Example: If someone has been unreliable with you so far, tell him or her; “I trust I can count on you. Seeing everything I have witnessed so far and the things you have done remarkably well and which I have pointed out to you, I strongly believe that I can rely on you to do these things you’ve agreed to do. Unless I have completely misjudged your character. Please tell me now if I have judged your character wrongly”.
In this way, you have given the person a name to live up to. You’ve made it known to them that you believe they are reliable and that it will really reflect badly on their character if they do not live up this “reliable” character you’ve associated them with.
That person might be unreliable to everyone else on this planet but they will be as reliable as a rock when it comes to you.
This is not blackmailing someone to do something they don’t want to do. You are simply awakening their latent qualities. Qualities which they can transfer to other areas of their lives.
The same way the clever use of a name or label can make people do things they wouldn’t normally do, that same method is applicable to every situation in your life currently.
Label Every Issue In Your Life Your Desired Outcome
No matter what you are currently going through in your life, no matter how hopeless it might be, whatever you call that thing, that it will respond to or become.
If you are currently experiencing lack and hardship, you have two options when it comes to labelling the situation. You can either call it a “big problem” or a “temporary issue“. This is the first stage of labelling situations in our lives. Secondly, whatever you call it in the first stage will determine how it turns out in your life.
If you call a situation a “big problem” in the first stage, then your vocabulary regarding the “big problem” will probably be in the line of “difficult“, “no solution in sight“, “no way out“, “hardship” and e.t.c. But if you called it a “temporary issue“, your words concerning this “temporary issue” will likely be “solution is near“, “something will turn up“, “it always ends well“, “it shall pass“, “it is only temporary“, “it’s nothing big“, “there is always a good way out” and e.t.c.
Whatever you name a situation, that’s what that situation will become. There is great power in your words. Rudyard Kipling said, “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.“
Knowing this, it will be foolish of you not to name any unpleasant situation in your life right now the desired outcome you want for that situation.
For example, if you’re currently single and you would really love to be in a loving relationship. Whenever you are referring to your relationship status, say something like; “My lover is on his or her way. He or she will probably come into contact with me within the next 2 months. And am sure we will make each other really happy. While he or she is trying their best to connect with me, I will be busy making room for them in my life and working on myself, on how I can add value to our lives.“
You might say these are empty words or hopeful talks at best, but try it and see what happens. Words are extremely powerful. Some people are living the very sentence they joked about years ago. If statements made during jokes can find a way to manifest, how much more statements that were made with deliberate thoughts? Label any situation in your life the outcome you desire from that situation and see what happens. It has worked for me countless times, and am sure it will definitely work for you.
People and circumstances tend to live up to whatever name we give to them. There was once a girl who always find a way to annoy me. It was as if she was always thinking of one way or the other to put me in a bad mood. I could have retaliated by annoying her back but instead, I chose to ignore her. Sensing that am ignoring all her antics, she increased them. So, I avoided her altogether. My avoidance tactic couldn’t really work because she happens to go to the same weekly social gathering I attend.
After thinking about the situation, I decided to try something different. I asked myself; what do I like about this girl? What can I say I appreciate about her, internally or externally? Internally I couldn’t find one quality I liked about her but externally I liked her dress sense. And since I have always liked people who put in a little bit of an effort into their dressing, it was easy for me to say genuinely “I appreciate her sense of style“.
So, the next time I saw this girl that has made it a habit to annoy me, I told her, “I like your dress. It’s beautiful. It really expresses your body shape, And you always dress nice. Keep it up“. You could not believe how happy she was. It was as if she has just received some good news she has been hoping for.
Since that day I told her that her dress was beautiful, each time she sees me, she will quickly walk towards me to get my opinion on her dress. No more attempts to annoy me or childish antics aimed at me. What did I do to change her behaviour? I focused on one good attribute of her which I genuinely liked and made her aware of it. To her, it was a good name. The name I gave her without saying it blatantly was “fashionista”.
Maybe she has always wanted to be recognised for her fashion sense but no one has ever done that, so she transfers her frustration which stems from lack of recognition into annoying people. I will never know for sure but what I do know is that I indirectly gave her a good name. Now she is finally convinced she has a sense of style and fashion. And she should be.
Now I have made her aware that she is a lady of style and fashion, she is very careful not to do anything that will tarnish that perception I have of her. She not only dresses well constantly, she also acts well. A lady of style and fashion cannot and should not be devoting her time to winding people up.
In the same manner, I can change an annoying lady to a lovely lady with just one genuine compliment or title, in that same manner you too can change the behaviour of people towards you. If you tell people they are crazy, they will act crazy towards you but if you tell people they are kind and lovely with a good heart, those are the characteristics they will display towards you.
People and circumstances will ALWAYS answer to any name you call them. So give them a name that will be beneficial to you. You have this power to bend reality, why not use it to your benefit.
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