Have you ever gone through a situation in life which you felt that you lost? It could be in love, business, health or anything else. The truth is that majority of us have been brought up with the concept and believe that there are winners and losers. And no one wants to be a loser. With this in mind, we associate winning with having a degree, getting a job, getting a mortgage, being in a romantic relationship, being married and having kids. In this time-space reality that we all exist in, this is winning; this is making progress. But still you ask; after degree, job, marriage, mortgage, and kids; what’s next? Is that life in a nutshell? This article isn’t about answering those questions, or one would end up going off topic.
The real question here is what if you haven’t gotten that degree you really want? Or the satisfying job that you desperately would like to have? Or you still haven’t met that someone you really connected with sexually, physically, emotionally and intellectually? What if all your peers have ticked the degree, career, mortgage and marriage box and you are nowhere near ticking any of those boxes and it doesn’t seem you will be ticking any of those boxes anytime soon? Are you now a loser? My answer to you is a categorical NO.
You are not a loser until you admit it.
You can start today by simply asking yourself what do I want in life? Write down your goals.
How will I go about achieving my goal? Create/Have a plan.
How long will it take me to achieve my goals? Have a deadline to accomplish your goals.
Once you have answered these three questions, muster all the determination, dedication and diligence you have in order to achieve your goals. Everything you need to achieve whatever you want in life is within you.
Whatever it is that you have done to this point that has made you feel like you’re a loser, I want to assure you that you are not a loser. If you don’t learn anything after reading this article, try to remember this; in life, you can either win or learn something. You win, or you learn how to get it right the next time. You don’t lose.
When you understand that the things you were involved in which you came out; feeling like a loser, are actually life using those situations and people to teach you things you really don’t know or understand, then you can say “thank you Life for the much-needed lesson. Now I will try again. This time I hope to get it right”. Take it from me, when life allows some unpleasant experience to take place in our lives and we didn’t learn from it, it will send those same unpleasant experiences our way again and it will continue to send the same unpleasant experiences our way until we learn from it.
How many times have you heard women say, “I seem to attract men that use me for pleasure and nothing else? They are gone once they’ve had their fun.” I have heard this sentence in different ways many times. Unfortunately for these women, Life will keep sending these types of men their way simply because they haven’t learned the particular lesson Life wants them to learn from those experiences.
So, you can’t lose in anything. You either win or learn from it. But when you don’t learn from the things that didn’t go the way you hoped for, those things will keep on repeating themselves in your reality until you learn from them. This is just nature’s law. It is painful, but it’s something you must understand for your own good.
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