Life can be filled with bliss or pain but most times they have both. It all depends on our choices.
We are all humans, as humans, we have the habit of looking back at all our past decisions. The people we wronged, loved, hated and the people who disappointed us usually make up our reflection period. But during this time of solemn reflection, what is usually filled with the most regret and pain are the decisions or lack of decisions that have prevented us from being who will really what to be.
If you are at that point in your life where there isn’t any excitement. Whereby life has become a bore and you genuinely have no motivation to do the things that have been demanded of you simply because you feel you are on the wrong or you feel your current life is not the type of life you desire, then I want to tell you that you can start all over again. For “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” says George Eliot.
The question you might be asking yourself is this; if I want to start all over again, how do I go about it without hurting anyone?
The answer to this important question is simple but it takes a lot of courage to execute but here are the steps if you are willing to start all over again:
(1) Be Honest With Yourself.
(2) Write And Plan Out Your New Life Path.
(3) Inform Those Who Will Be Affected Because Of Your New Life Path.
(4) Execute Your New Life Path Plan.
For better understanding let’s look at this four steps in more details below.
(1) Be Honest With Yourself
In Hamlet, Shakespeare had the character Polonius say:
“This above all: to thine own self be true
And it must follow, as the night the day
Thou canst not then be false to any man/Farewell, my blessing season this in thee!”
For you to truly start all over again, you must be honest with yourself first. You must take stock of your life and admit the flaws in your current life that are making you unhappy.
You must admit to yourself that you are greatly unhappy because you are not in the path you really want to be in life. You must be true to yourself first because it’s only when you have been successful in being “true to thy own self”, can you be true and honest to other people in your life.
I have come to realise that most people are unwilling to turn around and face themselves because it’s greatly uncomfortable and it will force them to take responsibility for their unhappy life. If you cannot turn around and face yourself and admit the true state of your life currently, then you are not ready to start all over again. This is the most vital step if you truly want to start all over again.
(2) Write And Plan Out Your New Life Path
If you are going to sail a boat or ship to a port you must at least know the location and name of your port of destination. This is how you can navigate successfully to your port of destination.
Without a clear and defined goal or end-product, every project will just an expensive waste of time. So after you are convinced beyond reasonable doubt that your current life is the wrong one for you, you must define in specific terms what you want your new life to be.
For example, if you think that your current career is the wrong one for you, then you should take a blank sheet of paper and write out in one sentence what you want your new career path to be. You might be a banker all your life but deep down you have always wanted to become a professional wrestler.
Take a sheet a paper and write “I AM _______________________________”. The blank is for you to fill with your new path. It could be a new career, a type a lover you want in your life, the type of family you want. In essence, it’s about you knowing what you really want and being able to state it in one simple sentence.
After you have specified and stated what you want on a blank sheet of paper, the next step is that you write out a plan of how you will attain it without putting your loved ones into too much difficulty.
(3) Inform Those Who Will Be Affected Because Of Your New Life Path
Before I cover this section of the article, let me state it right here that am an advocate for executing a plan immediately you have it. Saying this, there are times when you must first communicate your decision to start a new life path with those who will be affected with your decision first.
For example, a professional basketball player in the NBA decided he wanted to become a professional wrestler in the WWE because it’s something he has always loved since he was a kid. So one day he just joined the WWE and quit NBA.
This sudden change of career path didn’t go down well with his wife who filed for divorce immediately. Some people called the wife a gold digger, I personally think what happened was a result of poor communication in a relationship.
Before you embark on a new career path or a new direction in your life, make it a priority to communicate your decision with those who will be affected with your decision, especially if you are married or have kids.
(4) Execute Your New Life Path Plan
So, you have done steps 1 to 3, now we have come to the crucial part of starting all over again, which is execution – taking action.
A journey of a thousand steps begins with one step but the first step is always the hardest. Before you make your first step, you are bound to become fearful of the negative consequences of your action.
This fearful feeling of the negative consequences of your action is what Bob Proctor of Proctor Gallagher Institute calls the “Terror Barrier“. The good thing is that your happiness is outside/beyond the “Terror Barrier“. All you have to do is to smash through your “Terror Barrier“.
Everyone who has achieved great things in life has had to break through the “Terror Barrier”. So it is natural to feel fearful or frightened just when you are about to execute the plan for your new life path but you must execute your plan.
The best advice and plans in life are worthless if they are not executed. Application is everything when it comes to attaining success in life.
I don’t know what your current life situation. You might be in a loveless marriage, or in a dead-end career or you just feel you are not on your life purpose. If this is your current life, permit me to quote George Elliot again; “It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
Look at it this way, if it was possible to run a simulation of your whole life and at the end, you are able to attend your own funeral, would you be able to look yourself in a coffin and say “that man/woman has live a happy and fulfilled life”? If the answer is no, then you know what to do. It is never too late to start all over again and become who you have always wanted to be.
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